I was asked today "what about a woman turns you on, other than physical appearance." It took me a while to answer, but it's clear I eventually set my mind on one particular area. Attraction is one thing but when I can sit down and discuss politics (not just choice, but general tactics, policies) among current events - it usually turns me on. There's something about being mentally stimulated that relaxes my nerves yet peeks my interest. Even if it's an argument about foreign policies or something as tiny as a new local ordinance, I still manage to feel as excited as a little boy that discovered his 1st toy.

The truth is any caveman can be turned on by a nice body and a pretty smile, but those are the guys that usually lack substance or maintain bad motives. What translates as an authentic desire to learn someone in their entirety isn't physical lust, it's uncontrollable interest. Have you ever felt that way? The moment someone leaves the room momentarily, you're searching your brain to come up with something to talk about once they return. No - not what happened on some bizarre reality TV show. Something serious....something mind altering - something that interests you. Now forgive me if your highest level of thinking is some $200 pair of shoes or the latest Hip-Hop CD. But for those of you that have a higher level of thinking, you know exactly what I'm talking about. Many relationships or even friendships don't stand the test of time because of the unbalanced nature of personalities. Your girlfriend is thinking apples, your thinking apple clustered pie with cool whip and a cherry on top. Your room mate is thinking multi colored door mats, your thinking wall to wall carpet. Your friend is thinking bank scams, your thinking about a 401k.

Getting back to the topic at hand, that's what typically gets my motor running - mental stimulation on an acute level. At times I dumb it down, because I don't want to come off like a "know it all." But when I'm in my comfort zone with someone I typically hang around, I'll easily let my counterpart know I'd feel most uncomfortable by switching the topic of conversation. Sorry a deep discussion about MTV's Laguna Beach just isn't my thing.

I'm challenging you (yes you) to ask yourself. "Besides physical appearance what turns you on about someone of the opposite sex???" I'm curious to know what other people think in terms of importance when it comes to the opposite sex. Let me know how you feel. Remember you can remain anonymous.